Avoidance And Distraction Can Be The Best Coping Mechanism For Cancer Patients

When faced with a cancer diagnosis, it’s natural to ask, “Why me?” Many patients—even those who lived healthy lives—struggle with fear, anger, and self-doubt.  They replay the past, searching for answers, and often get stuck in sadness.

“The best coping mechanism? Distract yourself.” – Samara Mahindra

But according to Samara Mahindra, founder of CARER, the best way to cope might surprise you: avoidance and distraction. She says

 “The most difficult thing psychologically is helping patients focus on moving forward, not dwelling on the past or even today,”

Why Avoidance Helps

Overthinking cancer—constantly researching, talking about it, or blaming the past—keeps patients trapped in negativity. Instead, Samara suggests:

• Do things beyond cancer: Walk, listen to music, watch movies, or work.
• Spend time with loved ones—without always discussing the diagnosis.
• Focus on what brings joy, not just treatment and hospitals.

“While it sounds controversial, consciously distracting your mind is essential, you’ll be surprised how much it helps.” – Samara Mahindra

The Power of a Forward Focus

Avoidance doesn’t mean ignoring reality. It means protecting your mental health by shifting focus to life’s joys. As Samara puts it:

“There’s so much more to life. Don’t let cancer define every moment.”

For patients, this mindset can be freeing. By filling their days with positivity, they regain control—one distraction at a time.

Healing isn’t just about medicine; it’s about mindset. Sometimes, the healthiest choice is to step away from the “why” and simply live.